Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Surgery

Frank had an appointment with the Cancer specialist yesterday. His surgery will probably be in about 3 weeks. The doctors will do a test the day before to determine which lymph node is the one that should be removed, and then the next day they will remove either his left armpit node, or one in his arm or both.

Whichever they remove, he will be unable to move or use his left arm which will be difficult since he is a leftie. I will be home to fully take care of him after. I have spoken to my boss and we are going to hire a part time employee to help in the shop while I am gone. Frank will be down for about 2 weeks.

We won't know what stage his cancer is at until after they examine his lymph node.

Right now, I am going through the motions of life as if this is not looming before us. Working, making social engagements and doing my best to KEEP my social engagements. It is hard because I just want to curl up in a ball and cry sometimes. It hits me at weird times, like watching Frank talk to our kids, or getting a lovey text from him.


10 comments:

Trixie said...

Wishing you all the best. This is very scary, I don't blame you for wanting to just curl in a ball. I have done that in lesser situations. I hope it all goes well and he recovers quickly

Jana B said...

I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. My boyfriend has a very aggressive form of cancer right now so I definitely understand what you're going through. Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way.

Dolly Cool Clare said...

That's great they are seeing to him really soon. I have everything crossed for you Kim, stay strong x

Welcome to DeluxeVille said...

I think that the "in the dark period" is worse than the "knowing exactly what you're up against" period. Keep your chin up girlie... will keep fingers crossed for you and your hubby that all goes well.

Voodoo Kitten said...

Big cyber hug for you!

Laurence said...

Oh I'm so sorry for you! You must meet a lot of friends and also familly to be able not to think about that all the time, you have to stay strong for him, I know it will not be easy to do...
I will cross my fingers for you my dear!

Wink said...

All of my best hopes and wishes going your way.

Tara said...

My brother-in-law, at 47, was diagnosed with stage 3b lung cancer in early 2010. He smoked for years and quit sometime in 2005/2006. After chemo and radiation along with weekly injections, his PET scans have been clear for over a year. My mother-in-law was diagnosed with Stage II colon cancer in September 2010 and after surgery in October of that year, she was given the 'all clear.'

I will not say "Oh, I know what you are going through" or "I know it's hard." Only you and Frank know. I may understand, but it's your fight. Everyone handles it differently. But what I do know is that you ARE and will be an AMAZING support for your guy. We are all here for you, girl.

Straight Talking Mama! said...

I have been offline for a while and haven't heard about this. So sorry to hear this but also great that he's getting seen to so soon.

Good luck with everything, you're a great gal and will help him through it all xxx

The Black Opal said...

I am glad you are keeping your life going as it was before. It is really important to keep going and live right now because there is nothing else you can do, but just wait for the results.
Make sure Frank gets a lot of rest and eats well- no chemicals in the food and so on. It is important to help the body to recover from surgery and help the immune system to fight cancer in addition to all other treatments that they will provide. Jon and I keep you guys in our thoughts.

Maria

 

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